Friday, November 21, 2014

Fit in or Stand out?

We all live in comfort zones and find it really difficult to part away with it. But such is life, it will bring challenges and will expect you to raise yourself above the petty things and aim at the goal that is set higher. If you are a regular at the blog, then you would know that I love looking for inspiration from people in my life, everyday people like you and me! And so today it’s going to be my eldest niece, Mariah but I love calling her Ammu.

Ammu until this June was studying at the Indian School grade 5, one of the most prestigious CBSE schools in the Oman and was in the CBSE (I) curriculum, which is far more relaxed and than the regular CBSE. However when we decided upon putting Smera into an international school known for strong academics and extra-curricular activities, Ammu seemed excited about this new school for her.

It wasn't going to be a task as she just managed to clear her entrance test in Math and the second challenge set for her was French as opposed to Hindi was going to be the second language and she would have to catch up on her French. The third challenge for Ammu was to make new friends and so far it was easy for her as she joined and grew up from a toddler into a confident and popular 10 year old girl. Now it was going to all back to square one and at 10 it’s a bit more difficult to fit in.

But in all of this she had an advantage as she had an extra month of vacation which she utilised very wisely and got herself enrolled for Math and French coaching. As a result of the challenge that was set in front her, she pushed herself to the limits and in the very first test in French she scored a 100/100 and in Math she scored an 87/100. Since the first week her academic scores have been getting better the ever.

Simultaneously she has been making friends too in her peers and superiors but it is a bit longer process than she had expected. She is trying to make friends without changing the person she is and believe me it’s a tough ask for a 10 yr old. I keep reminding her of all the good parts of her character, while some days are tough but some days are super cool. The problem with the kids at her age is they without realising end up hurting, or bullying their peers. But what is important is not to lose your identity to become one of them.

In life I've learnt that trials are a great way to progress ahead in our lives. Sometimes they may make us feel excited and enthusiastic, while others simply are meant to overwhelm us.  The key is to never to lose your confidence, you may lose everything and get it back with firm belief in yourself. My advice for you and every child would be not to hesitate in taking chances and appreciate whatever you've have learned from a tough situation and you must also understand that every step is necessary in this journey called Life!

I know you've always enjoyed Dr. Seuss, he once said "Why fit in when you were born to stand out?”.  Taking a cue from Dr. Seuss, there is wonderful song that I am leaving for you and I feel best describes your situation. I Love You and you make me very proud girl!! 


7 comments:

  1. Its true.. this is an impressionable age and the years coming up are the ones where her ideals will be revealed best and sadly even tested. As a parent, your job is just to show them what the right path is and how life can be outside in the real world and away from the safety of family. After that, you need to trust her to lead her life and be the individual she is born to be... trust that your parental skills will be rewarded :)

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    1. True eventually it is the child who will make the decision .. but she should have the confidence right or wrong, the family would always stand by her ..

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  2. Good going, Ammu and well done! The earlier our kids can navigate through such tests and trials in life, the stronger it becomes for us to see how their strengths and values are shaping up. What matters is that you are there with her, guiding her and showing her the way forward when she needs you. All the best to Ammu!

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    1. Thanks Swapna .. Sorry for the very late response but Ammu was thrilled to read your comment ..

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  3. Observational writing thats really good to read. No offence but personally i really feel a bit worthless for myself that i was never able to score a full house in any of the test LOL :P

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    1. Sankalp scoring full marks is no proven parameters to judget a person's character ... Some times failures teach us lot more than our successes

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  4. I guess balancing academics with making the right friends, talking to peers and stuff is what we start learning as we begin growing up. Obviously it's not easy but the best things happen when we go out of our way to work hard, don't we? :D

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