Do you get questioned often? I am bombarded by them everyday and most
of my days, start and end with a question. Mostly asked to make me go crazy,
but there are some real smart ones too I have to confess. There are some that
put me in a tough spot, if I should answer the truth or cook up a story to
support. Nonetheless I know it is good to encourage Smera and her is curiosity.
A few years back I read somewhere that it is scientifically proven
that children who are naturally curious fare better at school, in
relationships, at work, and end up being intelligent, creative and satisfied
people. Right so this means no matter how tough it is going to find answers for
her questions, I must persuade her to be a flexible thinker! However this responsive
style of parenting, where we help the child to cultivate the habit of
questioning has its own flip sides too.
And today I plan to write about the question that has been disturbing
my little munchkin a lot, she has tried different ways find the truth but
answer is still evading her. The
question was –“Why was I not there at you wedding?”. “Didn't you love me then?”
she asked me once and I always tell her that she was with god watching the
ceremony happen from the heavens above. Then the next question she would come
up with is, “Really how come I don’t remember and why am I not there in the
picture?”
Over a period of time, she has come to terms that she was not invited
to the actual party and that she omnipresent from the heavens above. But the matter
does not end there for me, just when I was thinking that the problems have
solved, the little child asked me another bouncer of question. “Can you get
married again? This time you can invite me too!”
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So as I am writing this post the little one is busy checking her
wardrobe for a white dress that she plans to wear and along with her princess
wings and tiara. Looking at her enthusiasm over getting us married again, I am
wondering maybe it isn't really a bad idea and probably this time I could get
married in jeans and t-shirt.
this is right curious children are lot more intelligent and yes all parents get puzzled with this wedding question. I answered to my niece that she was attending another marriage with me on the day of her father's marriage
ReplyDeleteOh brilliant was that answer .. maybe the next time she asks I will try this one... For now planning is underway 😂😄
ReplyDeleteA light and delightful read in midst of PeshawarAttack mourning. Child's talk always makes me happy and brightens my mood. I believe one should never kill the curiosity in child. One shouldn't take intelligence out of child because one is unable to match its.
ReplyDeleteAs far as your daughter's questions concerned, they are sweet & lovely. :)
Just ask her about some events 2 months ago or some rhymes which she might have forgotten and let her think how she forgets that....... And then relate it your wedding which she has forgotten :)
And yes wedding again in jeans & t-shirts is really a cute idea :P
Absolutely right Ravish, what happened in Peshawar is really brutal and huge blow to humanity! Times like these I feel fortuate to have a life and family that is hail and hearty.
DeleteI'll try your suggestion too next time, but trouble is unlike me she has an impecable memory :D
Superb post... this post brought back memories of my trip from NYC to Niagara Falls. In our tour bus, a Nepalese couple was sitting next to my seat with their kid. The kid was keep on asking his father rounds of questions - "Daddy, where are we going", "what is this place", "what we will see there". His father told me that his kid asks lot of questions and he never mind at all. Infect he always answer him in detail.
ReplyDeleteChildren gets very curious during their boyhood, whatever they see around them, they want to absorb everything about their surrounding.....which keeps them ticking. Beautiful post, some funny (& innocent) questions by your lovely daughter.
That's so adorable ! I have a highly curious child and though it has worn my patience thin at times, it has also given me an enormous amount in joy in fulfilling his curiosity.
ReplyDeleteMaybe you can tell her that she was the reward for you and her papa after you got married. And promise her that you will hold the ceremony in front of her again when she grows up (which anniversary is that when you have to get remarried?)
ReplyDeleteGreat question. I too often face the same issue that currently u are facing. My answer was "BABY YOU ARE THE MOST PRECIOUS GIFT THAT GOD GAVE ME AFTER MY MARRIAGE AND MY WEDDING GIFT" and I also promised her we will again get married in front of her....
ReplyDeleteHaahaha can understand the flip side of children asking so many questions :P. There is many a time when even parents are left tongue tied :P.
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