Tuesday, October 6, 2015

Win some, lose some

Just as I was thinking of my next post, little Smera walks in with a grumpy face back from school. The expression was self-explanatory that her day at school was not very exciting. So I got started my interrogation, to better understand why her mood was off.

Me: How was your day?                              
Smera: Not good!

Me: Why not?
Smera: I was not the super reader in the class today.
Me: That’s alright, you were super reader yesterday and you will have chance to try again tomorrow.
Smera: But Hannan was the super reader and I did not like that. The whole class clapped for her, even I did but very slowly.
Me: Hmm and why is that?
Smera: Just because I was feeling angry in my heart!

I was glad that I got the little one to talk about it. By the end of the day Smera felt a lot better after talking it out, but this incident really was meant to be a good lesson in her learning curve. These little incidents teach children that they aren’t always just meant to win. They would have to put it their best effort and the best effort would eventually get to shine. 

While Hannan got to taste success, Smera got to taste competition and which in my understanding was also a good lesson to learn. Every lesson that Smera learns, gives us also a revision in old lessons learnt and which is why something that I read a while ago made perfect sense to me today. Let our children know that is absolutely alright to come second or even fail for that matter, but what is more important is that we are there to help them when they do fall.

“It may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” - Maya Angelou 

Parenting is such a wonderful experience, lets you re-learn, re-inspire yourself almost everyday. I guess this is how we become more experienced and hopefully wiser in life!! 


  1. Loved how you threw open the platform for her to find her own answers... that's what children have always needed...

    1. Thanks Vishal, it is a constant learning process for us too, sometimes I do get it wrong :)

  2. This is a beautiful piece. I think children makes you unlearn and relearn which is fantastic! Thank you for sharing

  3. Truly children have to learn that they can't always be the best. More important that they can learn from someone who proves to be better now and then.

    1. Absolutely Lata, probably this is how we also become more humble and appreciative of our success and give effort it's due credit!

  4. Sangeeta out of all the things I loved how you noticed that even sense of competition is a learning for a child. Parenting is so much about who we are and how we became that and imparting it to our kids.. no?

    1. True Richa and this is difficult thing in parenting to teach what is unsaid and is invisible. That's why it is the toughtest job in the world. We too learn from Smera's learnings !!

  5. Blogging is the new poetry. I find it wonderful and amazing in many ways.


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