Motherhood has it’s own ups and downs. Mostly will be ups, when you
see your little one smiles in the morning. God blessed us with a little
chatter-box, and I am sure she can give any President a run for their
money. We are best of friends, when
daddy works long hours, we joke, play and fight also.
Yesterday we had a little fight, we went out for dinner, an excited
Smera was a little too loud. So I kept telling her “be quite”, as I didn’t want
her to disturb others enjoying their food, hearing a yelling child. Just as soon as we reached home, I wanted to
wash her legs, hands, face before going off to sleep. But the sleepy Smera was
in no mood to wash up.
“I Hate you” came out of her innocent mouth. Even though I know she
did not mean it, but the words really did hurt me. So after all the rituals
were done, that she really didn’t want to do, I took her to bed. And I softly
asked her, “don’t you love mamma?” and she said “No, because you kept telling
to be quite, when we went out for dinner”. After that she added “I love daddy”
turned to the other side to sleep.
I know none of this was said from her heart but she must felt insulted
as I scolded her in front of everyone. That must have pricked the little one’s
heart. So to hurt me she must have said “I hate you”. But I couldn't sleep at
night, my heart felt so heavy.
However this morning there was a U-turn in the situation, she hugged
me and I said sorry too and told her how I felt. After a hearty conversation
with the three and half year old over breakfast all our problems were solved.
There will be more days likes these to come but I hope my Smera knows
that her mamma LOVES her the most in life. If ever mamma says something that hurts you,
in advance I am saying SORRY! Nonetheless you will be duly compensated too.
When you become big you too shall understand our parenting style is just
a hit and trial method. Sometimes even Google helps but not that too is not
always right! Sometimes it works and sometimes errors happen, however thou too
shall pass!
Hey,
ReplyDeleteHeartwarming post and I could feel exactly how you felt because I too hear those words, on and off. The things our kids say are never intended to hurt us but more of a wake up call to us to listen to their side of the story, sometimes they do a bit of 'garnish' and add 'masala' just to make us see their side. Like you rightly said, I believe that once they grow up, they will understand that no one really LOVES them the most as we mothers do. And yes, this too shall pass. Love and hugs to your little princess!
Swapna thank you so much for the soothing words !!
ReplyDeleteFaced it and still facing the same situation...... Happens :-)
ReplyDeleteSo I should gear up to be a bit more tough hmm ??
DeleteI guess everyone has suffered such a phase in life. But I feel everyone has definitely learnt a proper lesson from it. Well curated Swapna :)
ReplyDeleteThat's true Tara ... I did too !!! :D
Deleteso it is true .. TALKING helps :)
ReplyDeleteBikram
Yup Bikram but the problem is it helps when I am talking my problems ... when Smera gets going the going gets tough !!
DeleteThe art of parenting has a great role to play !!!
ReplyDeleteGood Post
Thanks Veena :D
DeleteIt happens...being a mother I too have faced such situations. Now I realize that our children don't actually mean it...all they want is to convey their discontentment in words....
ReplyDeleteMani - very rightly said and I am feeling good that I am not the only mom who has been through this :D
DeleteThanks for stopping by !!
Love hurts!
ReplyDeleteIt's called a sweet pain .... the one you don't want to get rid off :D
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DeleteSangeeta, I know exactly what you mean here (even though my 2 year old has not yet reached the 'i hate you' stage!). Sometimes, kids' innocent acts seem so selfish to our adult minds that they hurt; and they hurt a lot more because they come from those who we love so much. But as you rightly said, they do not mean it. No 'retired hurt' status for parents - no wonder parenting is the toughest job in the world!
ReplyDeleteNow I know what my parents meant when they said "you have to be a parent to understand!" I do now!
DeleteThank you for stopping by and a leaving a wonderful note!
Really Great post Sangeeta jee
ReplyDeleteThank you !!!
DeleteI hear you :)..Sweet post Sangeetha :)
ReplyDeleteThanks a bunch ... glad you can relate to what I feel !!
DeleteBingo !! my mum just scolded me today for not drinking enough water :D
ReplyDeleteEven when kids grow up & say such words, they don't mean it. But it hurts.
ReplyDeleteI have a nephew who's in pre-nursery now. I visited him for a week, and when I was leaving he said he won't speak to me. I was so hurt. But just when I was to leave he held my hand and began to cry. He didn't want me to go. It was so touching. Kids love/hate. It's always sincere and beautiful. :)
Their love/hate is as pure as it can be !! I am sure your nephew loves you a lot
DeleteKids these days are very sensitive.... We have to be doubly careful with what we say to them....!
ReplyDeleteAt the same time they are also very aware and much smarter than we were as kids I feel...
They can break your heart and uplift your mood in seconds!!