Friday, February 24, 2012

Motherhood, a soap opera!




Fifteen months of motherhood has taken the toll. What else would explain my perennially tired existence, pony-tailed hair-do, dark circles, and a constant desire to sleep?

I guess this must by a reality for any expat mom with out a full-time help or the support system we take for granted, back home. Yet, I find it difficult to accept that I do not have any time to myself.

That’s not completely true, is it? -  I get my daily breather when my part-time help comes home and on weekends when Daddy is in charge of Smera. But, there is something that I find very difficult to come to terms with - being at someone’s mercy to go to the beauty parlour ! I am not being unreasonable here, just enough time for me to get through regular and very essential stuff, nothing fancy.

I shouldn’t though, be complaining about the lack of inspiration when it comes to personal upkeep. I only to need to step out to my balcony to spot all the lovely ladies in our apartment complex - some even mothers of 13 or 14yr olds, look younger and definitely fitter than me.

I have on numerous occasions complimented them, and somehow that still does not feel enough to applaud the way each one of them take care of themselves. There is a fashion-week-feel to the occasions I get to meet most them together – usually for a party at someone’s place.

During the recent Valentines Day, on the way to one such get-together, I bumped into a lady at the elevator. I was on the phone, but we noticed each other and then we surprised each other, when we later turned up at the same party. But nothing could have prepared me for what came next.

After the customary pleasantries and introduction, the sweet lady revealed, that when she met me at the elevator, she thought I was some college girl skipping class on a Valentines day!

A college girl! - far cry from the down-beat self assessment early on. “My Santoor-moment”, I told myself, while sporting a broad grin through all of the following week.

I guess, a well meant compliment works better than the best beauty treatment.



Note: Santoor is a well known bathing soap brand in India. The brand is made popular by its iconic yet consistently cheesy commercials.  It typically features a beautiful Mom walking into a party being spotted by unsuspecting ladies. Just as everyone shower compliments such as ‘which college are you from?’ or ‘are you single?’ – a child appears on the scene calling “Mommy…” to everyone’s surprise. Here is a video

65 comments:

  1. Hmmm tumhari twacha se tumhari umar ka pata hi nahi lagta. :)

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  2. LOL the famous santoor ad...though I'm not a mommy yet, I can totally understand what you're going through coz I've seen mommies with new borns and their struggles...I've even baby-sat for them many times..but the phase will pass n then they start missing it...congrats on your santoor compliment :)

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    1. Thanks girl ... i am on vacation and getting some more compliments ... believe me I am on seventh heaven :D

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  3. Hello,

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    Keep blogging and keep posting.

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    1. Thank you Saikat ... congratulations on your award too :D

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  4. LOl! this is so good!!!! "meri maa super mom" -____-

    P Subbu's mind Crap.

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    1. Prerna - thanks glad you enjoyed reading it ..

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  5. hahaha...enjoyed reading this one..with all versions of Snatoor and crossing my mind and Sam told me once after her good night story..touching my cheeks..mumma i see u so b'tiful...I'll c u b'tiful even when u get lines on ur face ...that was so sweeet :-)

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    1. :)aaw that is so beautiful ... cheers to mommyhood and such joys ..

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  6. loved reading it and congratulations!!! even I had so many santoor moments but I am not a mommy yet :D hoping that they would continue!!

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  7. santoor mummy.loved this one...keep writing :)

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    1. thanks shalu .. readers like you inspire me!!

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  8. Oh yeah that's the best compliment a mother can get! Recently a Hijra had come to our house, asking for alms, but what my mother in law gave her was insufficient as per her standards, so she cursed and jinxed me saying ill never get engaged hence not be married, and our house will not have any kids!
    I loved her so much, after having a 6year old kid it's the best thing to pass of as single!
    But yours was better, getting it on valentine's day....lovely!

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    1. Wow !! that's must have felt so good .. :D great going pooja

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  9. I'm so happy to read this article. good blogging.

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  10. Which college you are from ?
    Are you Model :D :D :D

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  11. I can empathize with every word you have written Sangeeta. Give me a Hi-Fi! Yay! And you have worded it so well.. The moment I read first paragraph.. I hit the follow button :)

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    1. Thanks Sahana .. :) great you at sangrywords ..

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  12. Hmm, the santoor mom who looks like a college girl, interesting!
    Enjoy your motherhood Sangeeta:)

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  13. As a mom, I have undergone lots of changes and one of them being the weight gain. No matter what we love our kids and what they do to us ;)
    Looking at the picture, I would not believe what you said in the beginning but would rather go with the ending of the blog..

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    1. What you said is beautiful no matter what happens we love our kids .. But let me also confess this compliment is because of my angel ... But Farila you are an inspiration ...

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  14. lovely piece. . following you :)

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  15. swapna, i wanted to the same what you said after reading this post:

    tumhari twacha se tumhari umar ka pata hi nahi chalta!

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  16. He ha ... I am really enjoying this .. :)

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  17. Motherhood is a belssing- I have enjoyed as well learnt a lot. Had once written a thank her why's post based on the numerous question that my little onepoured on me, which is my favourite post.
    Enjoy
    cheers

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    1. I am yet to reach the why stage ... but we are still at the NO stage ... I am waiting for her starting talking .. :)

      thanks for stopping by Sushma

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  18. Age is a question of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter... said Leroy "Satchel" Paige
    How old would you be if you didn't know how old you were? asks Satchel Paige
    Its called "Middle age" probably because that is where the weight accumulates... hahaha! Join the club.

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  19. I doubt if anyone noticed your name "Sangeeta" on the soap. You really look like 25 yr charming girl.. woh profile pic tho latest hei na :D

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    1. :) that's thanks to my lovely habibi ... he makes these wonderful creatives .. and no that's not the latest one i'll put one soon :D then you can tell me hw old you think i am

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    2. Let me guess your age: 27 or 31 :D

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  20. LOL! I know how funny those ads are.Makes one roll their eyes :) Love your Santoor moment ..makes me laugh!! Stay young forever :)

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    1. To you too ... and to happiness forever and ever ...

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  21. I am sure that comment must have been a proud one to get that compliment:) It is true that these days, when two lades are walking,it is sometimes difficult to tell whether they are a mom/ daughter or two sisters!

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    1. Yes Rahul and I got some more back at home just last week .. Think the credit really goes to my daughter who makes me run and keeps me fit ...

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  22. Can understand the stress. However, the compliment goes a long way in showing how well you are juggling motherhood and glamour. Heres to many "Santoor" times ahead:)

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    1. Thanks Kajal .. I got some more my share of Santoor moments back home .. But you've seen mom, I have miles to go before I rest..

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  23. LOL, I hear you. My baby JUST turned 14 months and I am almost 40 years old ... I am questioning my sanity at this point. I have to use every extra minute for work and networking where before I had it done in 1/2 the time and some time for me. Don't get me wrong - I AM NOT complaining as I am grateful for my baby and am enjoying his so much - I am just explaining that life changes for sure; especially during the "toddler" years. I am glad you have some part time help and husband. I did not have that with my first 2 children, but married and have older siblings with this 3rd. Enjoy motherhood. It really goes so fast!

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    1. Lea god bless you .. yes I enjoy every and just like I also question my sanity sometimes .. but thankfully the Smera's smile and my husband support puts also those to rest ...

      God bless you and your family ...

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  24. MOtherhood, specially in the initial stages is no easy task and it is obvious it is taking a toll on you. And Nice to hear a comment(read genuine) from someone, particularly when you assessed yourself to be somewhere else. Enjoy :-)

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  25. Wow! you actually got a 'Santoor compliment', in other words. That's not something that everybody gets. Happy for you, honest. Stay beautiful, girl :)

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  26. A sweet & heartfelt compliment can do wonders for a persons self-esteem. So true.

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    1. Yes Rituparna - I have been on high note since then .. :D and seeing all the comments I even more thrilled :D

      Cheers!!

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  27. Hahahaha :D This is so nice :) :D.
    I've seen many women struggling in the beginning :D but you'll miss it for sure :D :P.
    Give the lil one a kiss from my side :).

    Good to know that you are SANTOOR MUMMY :D :).

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    1. Thanks girl .. I will give two kisses to Smera ..

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  28. hi...wonderful and sweet post...refreshing ...hi u earned urself a follower....and thanks also for being a member of my blog too...:)

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    1. Thank you so much .. glad you enjoyed it !!

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  29. Seen the Santoor Ad, probably looks a bit filmy, but your post reminded me of an incident.. Years ago, we used to have a lady come to our house, to meet my grand mom.. Was in College then, so a standard 18 year old guy, thinking.. Am great.. The lady used to look gorgeous and I used to pass by a couple of times the room where she used to be, or go and come back a few times, if my grand mom needed something.. The regular stuff....

    The fun and the shocker was one day, when her son came to pick her up.. He was three years elder to me... After that, never tried to judge a ladies age :), but old habits die hard :):)

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  30. Ha ha Rajesh .. But must have been a gorgeous lady ... I won't blame you !!

    :)

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  31. Congrats...Like your blog and your writing a lot!!

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  32. I guess now Santoor has a version for men too

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